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Best advice I have received on Parenthood

It is okay to make mistakes and when you do, to forgive yourself. Don't overthink every decision, but learn from each one.  Learn to love unconditionally and reflect when you attach conditionality to your love in subtle ways. Put your relationship with the child before their 'compliance' or 'discipline'. Think hard about what 'good' means in good boy or good girl!  Step into your child's shoes often. A child is pure and does not have mal intentions. Keep the long-term view in mind. Your smaller, everyday failures or struggles may be a long-term win in disguise.  Bringing up the child in partnership with them. Listen to your child. Ask open-ended questions. Reconsider your requests and how often you say no. Co-create the norms and rules. Even when you are silent, your body language and nonverbal cues are doing the talking. Be mindful and reflective.  Model the behaviour you want the child to show. For example, be vulnerable with them if you want the child...

What I wish for my child

I wish... ...you know and feel unconditional love and belonging and can offer it to others. ...you feel heard and seen and can make others feel the same. ...you can care and provide for self without feeling greed or inadequacy ...you are compassionate to others and most importantly your self ...you have the courage to be yourself and yet, accept that the self is a perpetual work in progress ...you can understand and question different paradigms before embracing them in your worldview. ...you can let go of beliefs, values and world views that are disproved or no longer serve you and your world without feeling shame, guilt or inertia. ...you are open to your outer world of people, places, things and experiences, and your inner world of thoughts, feelings, values and beliefs. ...you can plan for your life but also respond to emergence, trusting your intuition. ...you are self-reliant and yet appreciate your interdependence with other beings and nature. ...you strive for happiness, meaning...